Thursday, September 3, 2009

So, You Want To Get Your Girlfriend Back

So, you want to get your girlfriend back. And you are wondering how to go about doing that. You start thinking and philosophizing about everything that could have been done differently. You even begin to make plans on how to apologize. How should you do that, with a letter, flowers or buy her a gift, all in hopes of winning her back.



Back up, whole on a minute, all of those things are nice, but these things will tend to fall by the waste side for one reason above all else: because you can never really tell what the real reasons were behind your breakup. The apology, the flowers, and even the gift are all nice and you will probably give them to her, but not now, later much-later.



Women become emotional and often they don’t even understand what happen themselves,to make it all fall apart. She probably doesn’t even have a handle on why she’s feeling the way she is. So there, both of you are, in a daze not knowing which way to turn. You both need some time to gather yourselves. Since we are talking about getting your girl back let’s concentrate on that.
As I said earlier you both need to gather yourselves, which means you need to be apart from each other for awhile. You need to be working on yourself. You need to go out, meet new friends, have a little fun, network a little and forget about women and relationships in general for awhile. Set some realistic goals for yourself around expanding your repertoire when it comes to seduction and meeting people. Take a couple of months to make changes in your life. Taking time away from your ex will work wonders for you, and will allow you to put things back into balance.



The effect of going down this road verses another is that it will allow you to make gradual changes. And will allow you to see things such as the subject of your relationship in a difference light. After going through this process you may have a better idea on how to proceed with your ex, if that’s what you want to do, if not just move on. If getting back with her is the ticket, now would be the time to determine how she feels about you.



If she shows positive signs towards you then there’s your chance to be more direct. You need to play strategically, however, do not simply beg her to come back, for that will send her running. Be cool, calm, take it slow, no need to rush things here. If you have spent enough time apart she is probably missing you, just as much as you are missing her. Play hard to get, but don’t over do it, for that will frustrate her and you will be back where you started, wondering why. So there you have it, your limits, you need to be some where between begging and playing hard to get, more towards playing hard to get. That’s a big range I know, but there is a medium there somewhere, don’t worry you will find it. You need to show her that you are doing just fine in her absence. This will inspire her to really rethink things.



If getting back together with your ex is really meant to be, then it will happen. Be careful not to over analyze the situation, we are trying to put a relationship back together, not work out a science project. Just take things nice and slow and you should be fine.



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Wednesday, September 2, 2009

What must; What should; What can I do to get my ex-boyfriend back?

Does it seem like everything you do pushes your ex further and further away from you? Are you asking yourself: What must; What should; or What can I do to get my ex-boyfriend back? Well here are some tips that will greatly improve your chances for getting him back.

You hunted this article down on the internet because you are serious about putting your relationship back together with that special one. And you are looking for some advice and/or tips to help you do just that. But if you are feeling overly anxious about getting him back, you may be the cause for him to be running in the opposite direction. Struggling against human nature is completely pointless, and 9 times out of 10 will make things worst.

Are you doing one or more of the following things?


Are you:
  • Constantly calling him?

  • Constantly emailing or texting him?

  • Trying to run a guilt trip on him?

If you are doing any of the above, stop. Just stop!!


If you are asking:
  • What must?

  • What should?

  • Or What can I do to get him back?
You need to stop chasing him now, Right Now!!!


So what should you do to get him back, I suggest following this game plan. You begin by looking at your situation in a whole difference light. This may sound and feel strange, but you are about to “Flip the Script” as we say back home, you are about to take control. First, start by breaking off all contact with him, at least for a while. Put yourself first, for a change. During this period of time there should be no contact with your ex. Let me repeat that, there should be no contact with your ex. This is the time for you to work on yourself, rather than focusing on fixing your relationship. This will not be easy; it will require discipline to prevent you from returning to your old ways.


During this time your ex will start to see a shift in your behavior, mainly he will notice that you are not chasing him. You will become mysterious to him in some ways, because he will not be sure about what you are doing, thinking or feeling. And when this happens you are starting to take back control. You are “Flipping the Script”, which will work in your favor. By “Flipping the Script” he will start to wonder what you are doing, thinking, feeling and etc... He will start to miss you, which he can’t do if you continue to chase him.


The key to this strategy and repairing a break up is to work with human nature not against it. If you are wondering:
  • What must?

  • What should?

  • Or, What can I do to get him back?
You should have a good idea on what common mistakes to avoid. When you implement this basic strategy you can restore the balance, which will allow your ex to remember why he loved you in the first place. Just keep your head on straight and avoid smothering him. At times be mysterious, let him start to think, he will be reminded why he fell in loved with you in the first place. Play hard to get, but don’t over do it, because that will sent him running too. There is a medium there, you will find it. When you find it let him make the first move, and you will come out on top.


Then you can stop asking yourself:

  • What must?

  • What should?

  • Or What can I do to get him back?

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